What is it to be unfuckwithable?

When you can truly say that you’re at peace with yourself, and nothing anyone says or does bothers you, and no negativity or drama can touch you. And if you are more confident in calling yourself a Boss/Babe then you better live up to the title!

We’re easily swept either under the rug or under the microscope to be scrutinized, always too timid or too self-assured. Well, ladies. Little do they know is WE have the upper hand. We control who we are and what we’re capable of. We are the ones who walk our own paths to greatness. Once you follow these steps and join our live Master Class, you will stop caring how others think of you.

 

You first.

“When you are truly genuine, there will invariably be people who do not accept you. And in that case, you must be your own badass self, without apology.” ~ Katie Goodman

Everything you should be doing should be for YOU and YOUR GOAL. Of course there will be many distractions, influences and people who don’t agree. But so what?

 

 

 You should put yourself first.

In this sinking ship of society, if we don’t put ourselves, our own shit first before getting into other people’s shit… There’s just going to be shit all over the place. It’s like the blind leading the blind! We’d be helping no one.

Once we’ve stopped caring how others think of us and gotten our priorities straight, we’ve earned the right to help others with their shit.  

 

Self-affirmation is the key to self-love and respect.

“One must be willing to stand alone – in the unknown, with no reference to authority or the past or any of one’s conditioning. One must stand where no one has stood before in complete nakedness, innocence, and humility.” ~ Adyashanti

You become unfuckwithable because you don’t need approval. When you stop caring about how others think of you, you will become more self-confident. You already love who you are in mind, body and soul and won’t change for those who don’t appreciate you!  At the end of the day, all that matters is how much you’ve treated yourself with love and respect.

Loving yourself determines your capability to love others, and understand that hatred is really just love that has hardened itself because it fears being vulnerable.

 

 

Stop accepting shit you hate

I once stumbled across this quote from A Course In Miracles, and its been my favourite since:

“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety”.  

To be unfuckwithable, you have to learn what I once found so difficult: To trust in the process. The constant disheartenment and being dragged down by the often cumbersome, overwhelming day to day of an entrepreneur. But you must tolerate it because you’re working towards what your goal in life! Eliminate the anxiety of ‘I better get there, and I better get there faster, quicker and better than I’ve ever done before’.

Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait.

 

Live fearlessly.

As Steven Pressfield wrote in The War of Art :

“The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it and the more important it is to the growth of our soul.”

IMO this needs to be every entrepreneur’s mantra! Sure, you could use fear to keep yourself small and safe… OR you could face it as I did and realise that it’s LIMITING you, not SERVING you.

Life starts at the end of your comfort zone.

If taking risks were a guaranteed success, everyone would be doing it! But pushing our boundaries into those scary, uncomfortable places is how we stretch and grow.

Turn fear into fuel. Fuel your inner bossbabe’s courage to push your boundaries. To live a life with nothing to fear, nothing can fuck you over. The fear of what others think of us is paralyzing. However, there’s a big misunderstanding at the heart of this fear that causes most of the problem. And if you become fully acquainted with this knowledge it can help you stop caring about how others think of you and you can start living in a way that is more true to who you are and what you want to do.

 

 

Forget about being right

You have deal with the reality that you can’t always be right. If you keep pursuing this, you’d just be downright stubborn! Don’t get me wrong stubbornness is be good in the sense of perseverance and discipline, but what I’m talking about is ignorance. We should strive to be curious.

Three words to success: Never. Stop. Learning.

By only believing you’re right without acknowledging other perspectives, how do you expect to grow? There will always be someone more “right” than you, and then you’ll find yourself in a very f*ckwithable situation.

 

Talk yourself up not down

I’m definitely no stranger to thinking, “I’m not confident in doing this”. Yet the only person that can shape you and how you see yourself is YOU.

If you had one negative thought once, it has no power over you.  Repeat it again and again add in some emotional intensity and all of a sudden these seemingly unbreakable thoughts. Dragging you into a spiral of negativity and controlling you. But guess what?

 

You created the thoughts in the first place, and you have the power to break them!

Being aware of the stories you tell yourself that fuck you over, then finding better stories that benefit you.